Values

With this blog series, I talked about getting clear on where you are and where you're going. Now I want to look at the how. In GPS terms, we look at car vs train vs walking. Or we do quickest route or no traffic or scenic route. The how is very important.

Its also important to know the why before we go on a journey. If I'm sitting in traffic, its helpful to remind myself that I am going to my job which is meaningful or that I'm going to the mountains which is something I love. The why brings motivation and helps us endure a difficult journey.

We need this in life too. Let's be real, relationships can be tough, therapy's not always fun, recovery and growth can be painful. So we need a solid how and why for those journeys. That's where values can help. For example we might decide to be vulnerable with our partner as a way to practice our value of honest or listen to a funny podcast on our way to a social event that's anxiety provoking to focus on the value of humor or focus on our value of family when feeling overwhelmed by dating apps.

Here is a list of values (compiled by Steve Pavlina). Values should be motivating and grounding. They should be aspirational and make your heart sing. They should feel like coming home. They are your compass for living a meaningful life. Like true north, you never arrive at your values, but you continue to move toward them.

Take a look through the list. Write down the top 5 values that stand out to you. Ask yourself "what can I do TODAY to move toward my values?". Then do that!!

Values

  • Abundance
  • Acceptance
  • Accessibility
  • Accomplishment
  • Accountability
  • Accuracy
  • Achievement
  • Acknowledgement
  • Activeness
  • Adaptability
  • Adoration
  • Adroitness
  • Advancement
  • Adventure
  • Affection
  • Affluence
  • Aggressiveness
  • Agility
  • Alertness
  • Altruism
  • Amazement
  • Ambition
  • Amusement
  • Anticipation
  • Appreciation
  • Approachability
  • Approval
  • Art
  • Articulacy
  • Artistry
  • Assertiveness
  • Assurance
  • Attentiveness
  • Attractiveness
  • Audacity
  • Availability
  • Awareness
  • Awe
  • Balance
  • Beauty
  • Being the best
  • Belonging
  • Benevolence
  • Bliss
  • Boldness
  • Bravery
  • Brilliance
  • Buoyancy
  • Calmness
  • Camaraderie
  • Candor
  • Capability
  • Care
  • Carefulness
  • Celebrity
  • Certainty
  • Challenge
  • Change
  • Charity
  • Charm
  • Chastity
  • Cheerfulness
  • Clarity
  • Cleanliness
  • Clear-mindedness
  • Cleverness
  • Closeness
  • Comfort
  • Commitment
  • Community
  • Compassion
  • Competence
  • Competition
  • Completion
  • Composure
  • Concentration
  • Confidence
  • Conformity
  • Congruency
  • Connection
  • Consciousness
  • Conservation
  • Consistency
  • Contentment
  • Continuity
  • Contribution
  • Control
  • Conviction
  • Conviviality
  • Coolness
  • Cooperation
  • Cordiality
  • Correctness
  • Country
  • Courage
  • Courtesy
  • Craftiness
  • Creativity
  • Credibility
  • Cunning
  • Curiosity
  • Daring
  • Decisiveness
  • Decorum
  • Deference
  • Delight
  • Dependability
  • Depth
  • Desire
  • Determination
  • Devotion
  • Devoutness
  • Dexterity
  • Dignity
  • Diligence
  • Direction
  • Directness
  • Discipline
  • Discovery
  • Discretion
  • Diversity
  • Dominance
  • Dreaming
  • Drive
  • Duty
  • Dynamism
  • Eagerness
  • Ease
  • Economy
  • Ecstasy
  • Education
  • Effectiveness
  • Efficiency
  • Elation
  • Elegance
  • Empathy
  • Encouragement
  • Endurance
  • Energy
  • Enjoyment
  • Entertainment
  • Enthusiasm
  • Environmentalism
  • Ethics
  • Euphoria
  • Excellence
  • Excitement
  • Exhilaration
  • Expectancy
  • Expediency
  • Experience
  • Expertise
  • Exploration
  • Expressiveness
  • Extravagance
  • Extroversion
  • Exuberance
  • Fairness
  • Faith
  • Fame
  • Family
  • Fascination
  • Fashion
  • Fearlessness
  • Ferocity
  • Fidelity
  • Fierceness
  • Financial independence
  • Firmness
  • Fitness
  • Flexibility
  • Flow
  • Fluency
  • Focus
  • Fortitude
  • Frankness
  • Freedom
  • Friendliness
  • Friendship
  • Frugality
  • Fun
  • Gallantry
  • Generosity
  • Gentility
  • Giving
  • Grace
  • Gratitude
  • Gregariousness
  • Growth
  • Guidance
  • Happiness
  • Harmony
  • Health
  • Heart
  • Helpfulness
  • Heroism
  • Holiness
  • Honesty
  • Honor
  • Hopefulness
  • Hospitality
  • Humility
  • Humor
  • Hygiene
  • Imagination
  • Impact
  • Impartiality
  • Independence
  • Individuality
  • Industry
  • Influence
  • Ingenuity
  • Inquisitiveness
  • Insightfulness
  • Inspiration
  • Integrity
  • Intellect
  • Intelligence
  • Intensity
  • Intimacy
  • Intrepidness
  • Introspection
  • Introversion
  • Intuition
  • Intuitiveness
  • Inventiveness
  • Investing
  • Involvement
  • Joy
  • Judiciousness
  • Justice
  • Keenness
  • Kindness
  • Knowledge
  • Leadership
  • Learning
  • Liberation
  • Liberty
  • Lightness
  • Liveliness
  • Logic
  • Longevity
  • Love
  • Loyalty
  • Majesty
  • Making a difference
  • Marriage
  • Mastery
  • Maturity
  • Meaning
  • Meekness
  • Mellowness
  • Meticulousness
  • Mindfulness
  • Modesty
  • Motivation
  • Mysteriousness
  • Nature
  • Neatness
  • Nerve
  • Noncomformity
  • Obedience
  • Open-mindedness
  • Openness
  • Optimism
  • Order
  • Organization
  • Originality
  • Outdoors
  • Outlandishness
  • Outrageousness
  • Partnership
  • Patience
  • Passion
  • Peace
  • Perceptiveness
  • Perfection
  • Perkiness
  • Perseverance
  • Persistence
  • Persuasiveness
  • Philanthropy
  • Piety
  • Playfulness
  • Pleasantness
  • Pleasure
  • Poise
  • Polish
  • Popularity
  • Potency
  • Power
  • Practicality
  • Pragmatism
  • Precision
  • Preparedness
  • Presence
  • Pride
  • Privacy
  • Proactivity
  • Professionalism
  • Prosperity
  • Prudence
  • Punctuality
  • Purity
  • Rationality
  • Realism
  • Reason
  • Reasonableness
  • Recognition
  • Recreation
  • Refinement
  • Reflection
  • Relaxation
  • Reliability
  • Relief
  • Religiousness
  • Reputation
  • Resilience
  • Resolution
  • Resolve
  • Resourcefulness
  • Respect
  • Responsibility
  • Rest
  • Restraint
  • Reverence
  • Richness
  • Rigor
  • Sacredness
  • Sacrifice
  • Sagacity
  • Saintliness
  • Sanguinity
  • Satisfaction
  • Science
  • Security
  • Self-control
  • Selflessness
  • Self-reliance
  • Self-respect
  • Sensitivity
  • Sensuality
  • Serenity
  • Service
  • Sexiness
  • Sexuality
  • Sharing
  • Shrewdness
  • Significance
  • Silence
  • Silliness
  • Simplicity
  • Sincerity
  • Skillfulness
  • Solidarity
  • Solitude
  • Sophistication
  • Soundness
  • Speed
  • Spirit
  • Spirituality
  • Spontaneity
  • Spunk
  • Stability
  • Status
  • Stealth
  • Stillness
  • Strength
  • Structure
  • Success
  • Support
  • Supremacy
  • Surprise
  • Sympathy
  • Synergy
  • Teaching
  • Teamwork
  • Temperance
  • Thankfulness
  • Thoroughness
  • Thoughtfulness
  • Thrift
  • Tidiness
  • Timeliness
  • Traditionalism
  • Tranquility
  • Transcendence
  • Trust
  • Trustworthiness
  • Truth
  • Understanding
  • Unflappability
  • Uniqueness
  • Unity
  • Usefulness
  • Utility
  • Valor
  • Variety
  • Victory
  • Vigor
  • Virtue
  • Vision
  • Vitality
  • Vivacity
  • Volunteering
  • Warmheartedness
  • Warmth
  • Watchfulness
  • Wealth
  • Willfulness
  • Willingness
  • Winning
  • Wisdom
  • Wittiness
  • Wonder
  • Worthiness
  • Youthfulness
  • Zeal