We are starting to get back to normal these days. We can now go see friends, go to sporting events and hang out at bars, but are you really connecting with those around you? You struggle, your friends struggle, we all struggle at some point, right? Sometimes you know someone is going through something because they openly share it with everyone (social media included). Or maybe they share only with you or a few friends. Sometimes though they never share and are suffering alone. The point is, we all go through it at times and most often no one ever knows.
This is where you come in - make a call, reach out, ask them for some advice and have a conversation. You don’t ever have to touch on the things that are going sideways in either of your lives. You could talk about making bread or how your in-laws bug you, there’s just something very cathartic about getting reminded you’re not alone in this world. A five-minute connection about seemingly inconsequential jibber jabber can magically remind both you and them that you have what it takes to persevere.
Ideally we should all be more present, especially with those we care about, but sometimes life gets in the way and doesn’t allow it. Sometimes it’s those who appear the strongest that are the ones suffering the most. My grandpa told me once that when someone asks you a question about something, they’re really telling you they have something to say. Think of that friend who is constantly checking in on you, asking about your day.That may be their way of begging to bend your ear for a few.
Think of the golden rule obviously, but be the type of friend you need and want. You could surprise them with lunch or maybe just bring coffee or tea over. Maybe you have a long-distance friend who you don’t get to see as much; why not write them a letter or send them a handwritten note.When you call your friend or family member and end up getting their voicemail, make it a habit to leave something inspiring, encouraging, and uplifting on their machine. You’d be surprised at how much joy it brings you in turn.