Frequently asked questions
Q: How many couples counseling sessions will it take to repair our marriage or relationship?
A: Because every couple is different, and the degree of distress varies, there is no simple answer to this question. Generally, the number of marriage / couples counseling sessions that a pair attends before experiencing significant relief from distress will range between 8 and 20 sessions. As you might expect, there is no “quick-fix” in the quest to achieve change. However, even after the first session we want you feeling hopeful and supported. We will immediately begin to explore patterns and other issues that lead to your distress.
Q: How often do we need to go to marriage counseling?
A: Most couples choose to attend couples counseling on a weekly basis. In more fragile relationships however, couples might find twice-weekly appointments more helpful. As you begin to feel more confident managing the relationship outside of counseling, sessions are scheduled less frequently.
Q: Should I go to marriage counseling alone if my spouse or partner will not agree to participate?
A: There are many reasons why your partner might be reluctant to attend. For example, he/she may fear they’ll be blamed for the role they play in contributing to the current state of affairs. Further, they may fear having to face some very powerful and overwhelming emotions. If your spouse is firm about not attending then YES, consider the benefits of professional support and counseling for yourself. The research has shown that in making changes yourself, you can have a powerful influence on your partner and how you are treated in the relationship.
Q: Is couples counseling right for us if we simply want to learn more effective communication and learn to argue less?
A: Couples counseling is absolutely ideal for couples who want to learn better methods of communication, create a deeper connection, and want the most from their partnership. In fact “communication” is more of an umbrella term for things like learning to stand up for yourself, learning to stay engaged in an argument, to stop being dismissive or defensive. Even if you feel you have waited years too long, we can give you the exact emotional habits you need and the exact ones you need to avoid to be in a successful relationship. In addition, we will show you the anatomy of how to fight fair, yes there is an actual progressive list of what to do and how to do it successfully.
Q: Do you accept insurance?
A: Oddly enough, most insurance companies do not cover couples counseling. Even if yours does, you are limited in choosing a therapist and must choose from their in-network list. I believe that everyone should have the right to choose the therapist they feel most connected and comfortable with in session. This puts the power in your hands.
Regardless of your benefits and coverage, fees for therapy are expected to be paid in full at the time services are rendered. If you choose to file independently for a reimbursement with your health care provider, a receipt documenting all necessary information will be provided upon request.