Colorado Couples and Family Therapy
Our philosophy about Individual, Couples, and Family Therapy. Our approach to relationship struggles and why we stand above the rest.
You should be asking yourself why you would choose anybody or any team of therapists to help guide you along your journey to a better relational life, whether it’s with yourself or another person. We Believe in The SCIENCE of Relationship Success so that we know what we do really works when you practice what we preach.
Our approach to couples counseling differs from that of most therapists.
COUPLES THERAPY
We take a very scientific approach to couples therapy in that we count on the past 40 + years of scientifically validated research specifically devoted to couples to guide our practice. During sessions with all our couples, we go over the exact habits you need in order to have a successful partnership, the habits you need to avoid, and the anatomy of a fight – HOW to fight fair. We show couples the exact steps to take. It’s not rocket science, it’s research. It’s building new habits and basically putting them into muscle memory, except in your brain. We draw from several different modalities including the Gottmans, Terry Real, Brent Atkinson, Esther Perel, The Couples Institute and more. In really basic terms, that means that we are never a one size fits all practice. We do not subscribe to only one type of therapy because one size never fits all. We cater our approach to whomever walks through our door.
Successful couples aren’t without conflict, to the contrary they fight like the best of them. However, they do something that most of the population doesn’t know how to do. They know how to repair the rupture quickly and effectively. PERIOD. They have a tool chest of habits that enable them to take total responsibility for their actions, especially when they royally screw up. If their partner or spouse is the one messing up that day, they know how to bring their “A-game”. They know the skills and tools needed to manage the situation and not escalate it. We will give YOU these tools.
We ask you to commit to weekly sessions at first, if possible, and when we feel you are ready, we will suggest moving to less frequent meetings. Here’s another thing we do differently, we WANT you to check in with us when we aren’t in session. One session a week is hardly sufficient for some couples. If you are having a tough moment, call us, email us or text us. We don’t want you stumbling around or in pain for days, that would be ridiculous.
Here’s something that most people don’t realize…when you can take total and complete ownership for screwing up, it feels liberating. You are saying, wow I really messed up and now I am going to fix it. It feels powerful and you know your next move. If you fall into a puddle of tears you are giving your power away instead of stepping up and staying in the partnership. (and yes of course you can cry, we just want you to be able to stay in the moment and work it out.)
Couples Counseling sessions will never be shaming or embarrassing, just a heaping load of help. It won’t serve anybody in this practice if we sit back and go gently 24/7. Of course we care deeply about how you feel. We will go over your patterns and interactions – but we don’t stay there for long. We move right into a better way to feel heard, validated, understood, appreciated, etc. This is relationship boot camp. We want you all in and back on your feet asap.
Independently voted Top 3 Marriage Counselors in Denver from 2017-2023!
INDIVIDUAL THERAPY
You are on this page because something in your life is not working right. You might be struggling with a spouse, a co-worker, family, current or past traumas or any number of other things. We have decades of combined knowledge and proven techniques to help get you out of that black hole you find yourself sinking into further and further. We work with individuals on a variety of issues not limited to but inclusive of the following:
It’s important to work on relationship struggles whether you are single or are in a relationship. We all have baggage from our past that can impact the present. Your spouse / partner does not need to join you in therapy in order to make progress. We give you concrete steps to take that will influence your partner to make changes in themselves. And if you aren’t in a relationship, well you still have one with yourself so we will work on that.
FAMILY THERAPY
Families come in all shapes and sizes and we know how to work with them. Whether you are a family of 2 or 12, we’ve got you covered with our family therapy. The bonds that are so tight can rupture in a moment’s notice and it can feel like your world has been torn apart. For many of us, family represents our safe place, our harbor in the storm. But what if your family was never your safe place? Maybe you feel like the black sheep because you have different ideas than the rest. Sometimes a sibling or parent has been abusive, either verbally or physically. We know how to help you repair those bonds. And if a repair is not what you are looking for, we know how to help you move through the pain to a more peaceful life. Not all relationships should be fixed, we know that.
Whatever situation you find yourself in, family is complicated - and sometimes it’s really really messy. That’s ok. We’ve got your back.
Ready?? We really love what we do and our mission is to help you succeed in your relationship and your personal life with yourself.