Now that I have your attention....
I want to talk about mindfulness. Not the sexy topic you may have expected, but bear with me, I promise I wasn’t just teasing you with some clickbait blog title.
Sex is pleasurable, fun, connecting, and even spiritual at times. F### what Cosmo or Maxim might say, the way great sex happens is not through circus act moves, fancy positions, or having the perfect body. It comes from being mindful.
Mindfulness is paying attention and choosing your focus and purpose. You can have the best techniques and all the right moves, but if you’re doing your taxes in your head or critiquing the size of your butt, you’re missing out. Being mindful will help you notice your own feelings and pleasure and give you the wherewithal to be able to communicate what you need to be fully present and connected with your partner.
Now Cosmo and Maxim aren't totally wrong. New moves, exotic smells, and feeling sexy thanks to the latest health and fashion tips may help you to have great sex. But why do they help?? Because trying something new, using your senses, and feeling confident aid us in staying present and being focused on the moment.
But you can’t expect to go around being a mindless robot, thinking of the past, the future or not thinking at all, and then expect to suddenly be good at staying present for sex. That's crazy. We get good at what we practice.
So, since sex sells, here’s reason #592 for practicing mindfulness consistently: being more mindful will make you a better lover!
Quick mindfulness tips to jumpstart your practice. Do this as often as you like to use your five senses to be more aware of the present moment.
- Notice 5 things you can see right now
- Notice 4 things you can hear right now
- Notice 3 things you can touch right now
- Notice 2 things you can smell right now
- Notice 1 thing you can taste right now.
Namaste. Happy practicing!