Elie Wiesel, one of the most famous Holocaust survivors, writer and all around amazing human being, wrote the opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference.
With the couples I have worked with over the years, this seems to me to be the one thing from which couples might not recover. Indifference means you have no interest, concern or sympathy left for your partner, you don’t care anymore. I would rather see two people in my office overwhelmed by anxiety or two people incredible angry with each other. With anger and anxiety there is an immense amount of hope and work to be done. Indifference is the switch that might not be able to be flipped back.
Indifference might look great on the outside - no arguing and you’re getting along like great business partners or roommates. The ugly truth is that you might feel dead inside if you really take the time to examine it. If you are starting to see this attitude emerge in yourself or your partner, please call so we can get you back on track. Let’s figure out what is missing for each of you. Nobody wants to go through life simply checking off the boxes of what a good relationship looks like on paper.
You want to feel energized and inspired, like somebody who feels they are growing alongside their partner, not withering away. You want to be able to share dreams and celebrate triumphs. Or maybe just celebrate that you child peed in the potty. The little things are always the big things.
If you and your partner are dealing with indifference, call us today. We will help you find joy again.