List of movies to help you get through the emotional stress of the holidays.
My favorite podcast of the week is The Hilarious World of Depression. Have you listened to this??!! It’s so amazing. John Moe, a comedian and the host of the podcast, has discussions with a lot of famous people about a silent but often deadly disease, he also makes you laugh about it. His first question to all guests, usually comedians, is “Is depression funny?”. They all answer yes, and then they talk about the lonely side of the disease when you try to manage it on your own.
I love this podcast for several reasons and am always on the lookout for a new episode. Like I said, he is having in-depth, very personal conversations about depression and its debilitating effects. So much of what we witness about depression is on TV ads or in magazines in small print that makes no sense - If you take this drug you might feel better. Don’t get me wrong, I think psychopharmaceuticals are fantastic, but what John is doing is different. He is normalizing depression by introducing you to famous people who suffer and how they are combating their mental illness. He puts well known faces to depression making it relatable. You probably need more than a dose of medicine daily to really combats this nightmare.
John gives listeners tips and tricks in every episode. Everybody deals with and handles their depression differently. He gives listeners mini episodes as well, some of which are listener based. People email him with their personal strategies. I tell all my clients that no matter what, you need an arsenal of weapons, a toolbox full of ideas because some days your go-to weapon won’t cut it.
Here’s a link to the podcast - go get it! AND, stop struggling alone! We want to help you, call us right now and start feeling better today. Let’s build your own personal arsenal to kick depression’s ass.
Today a client asked me if I have ever dealt with “something this bad” in my practice. Her marriage is in a shambles in ways that frankly are hard to imagine. To her, it’s worse than any horror movie. I told her that I’ve never seen her exact situation, but I’ve had all the pain in the world in my practice from different clients in too many situations to count. So the question is not about judging the extent of the “badness”. The question is have I ever seen this much pain. The answer will always be “yes”.
Part of her question asks about a “degree of pain marker” to be put on situations. The first time I realized I couldn’t put a measurement on the degree of emotional pain was when my son was in the NICU for three and a half months. He was born three and a half months early. I would get comments that people could relate because their child was born 4 weeks early. I came to the conclusion that if your worst event in your whole life was your child being 4 weeks early and it scared the living shit out of you, then who am I to say mine was worse? We were equally scared shitless.
Don’t compare your pain or life situation to anything else. You pain is your pain no matter what anybody else thinks. If your partner does or says things that are belittling and mean according to you, then they are belittling and mean. I have clients from the east coast who can talk to each other in ways that would make my mid-west clients lose their mind. The point is that if you have a feeling or an emotion or a pain, it’s real and it’s ok.
The other point is that yes, you can move beyond it if you want, but you don’t have to. If what happened is the straw that broke the camel’s back, then it’s broken. If you want to try everything and anything to repair it, then let’s go for it. Just don’t feel like you have to do what all your friends say because they don’t think your pain or your situation is that bad. Your wound might not be big to them, but to you, your heart has been ripped out. Pay attention to your feelings, to your grief and to your needs.
I have seen pain, I have felt sad and hurt. I am here to help you get through what ever level of “bad” you are experiencing. Call and make an appointment today.
At Colorado Couples and Family Therapy, we often give calls to action, ways to take a concept and apply it to improve your life. Well here’s a different call to action, a way to improve someone else’s life.
On September 24th, you can join me and many others in walking with the “Out of the Darkness” community walk to remember those we have lost and bring awareness to mental health issues so we may help those struggling with suicide.
Walk Date: 9/24/16
Walk Time: 10am-12pm
Walk Location: Coors Field (1663 Park Avenue West, Denver)
To get more info and register: afsp.donordrive.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=donorDrive.eventID=3920
Suicide, or intentionally taking one’s life, is complex; it involves psychological, social, biological, cultural, and environmental factors. People who are suicidal may talk a lot about death, with/draw from friends, give away prized possessions, become more reckless and impulsive, /or express hopelessness. (2) Suicide is preventable; talking about it does not cause someone to become suicidal, but rather, could actually save their life. 1
• Globally, there is one suicide about every 40 seconds. 2
• In the U.S., there is a suicide every 13.7 minutes. 3
• Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death for Americans. 1
• Suicide is the 3rd leading cause of death for Americans age 15-24. 4
• Males die by suicide four times as often as females, but there are three female attempts for every male attempt. 1
1. AAS Facts about Suicide and Depression
2. WHO Suicide Prevention Fact Sheet
3. AAS 2010 Suicide Final Data
4. CDC Suicide Fact Sheet*